Do Guys Mean what they say? Yes and No...

 

 
Hey Readers,

 I'm going to reveal a crafty little trick men pull
in the beginning of a relationship so
you stop falling for it!

A big source of confusion for many of
our readers stems from whether guys
mean what they say. A lot of the times,
a guy will say one thing and then do
something that doesn't seem to fit at
all with what he said.

I'm going to use a personal example to
further illustrate my point. A  friend of mine started dating
this guy who laid it on pretty thick in the
beginning. He would tell her how much
he liked her, how amazing she was, how
happy he is to have met someone like
her, how beautiful she was, etc. etc.

This came pretty early on in the relationship
and she assumed he was hooked. And since
he seemed to like her so much I didn't think
there was any risk of him suddenly unliking
her.

Turns out that the rules of Facebook also
apply to real life and a guy can go from like
to unlike with one quick click..

Feeling confident that this guy wasn't going
anywhere, She saw no harm in expressing how
much she cared for him.

Since they both liked each other and it was
all out in the open, She figured they were on the
fast-track to becoming BF/GF at any
moment.

Not quite. Soon enough, he started to
distance himself until he faded away entirely.

Even though this type of thing had happened
to her before, She was  BAFFLED,
considering how much he liked her,
shouldn't he have been thrilled when she
reciprocated?! WTF?!

She really couldn't understand how he could
go from liking her so to completely ignoring
her. Was he lying when he professed his
undying "like" for her?

Well...yes and no. Guys can be very insecure
about how appealing they are to the opposite
sex and may have a tough time figuring out
how you feel right off the bat.

To get a sense of how irresistible you
find his studliness, he may throw some
things out there...just to see where you
stand.

If he says he likes you and you beam with
elation and declare how much you like him
too, well now he knows! If you look
freaked, well then he knows he needs to try
a little harder to win you over.

The guy isn't necessarily lying to you, I mean,
if he's taking you out he obviously feels
something...he might be exaggerating just how
much of that something he's actually feeling.

In her situation, She put way too much weight in
what he said and happily accepted them as
complete truths. As a result, she started to
approach the relationship differently.

Her thoughts and attitudes had changed
in accordance with the things he said and,
as evidenced by his disappearing act,
they were never on the same page like she
thought. 

To avoid being blind-sided by a guy who
seemed so smitten in the beginning, only
to disappear soon after, take everything
he says in the beginning with a grain of
salt and respond with half a grain of
sugar.

He tells you he likes you, put a plug in your
bursting elation. Instead, smile and say aw,
thanks, that's so sweet!  Or say nothing and
just grab his hand and give him a sweet peck
on the cheek. This shows him that those
fuzzy feelings are reciprocated without giving
away to what extent.

You may feel intrigued, you may feel
infatuated, but rarely will you know
someone profoundly enough to develop
genuine feelings that go beyond the
physical and into the emotional.

You'll know when a guy truly has feelings
for you because it will come at a point
when he would never conceive of just
disappearing and leaving you hanging
with one arm and scratching your head
with the other.