I want to let you know about a relationship trap
that lots of women fall into - and don't
even know it!
Whenever I hear anyone lament "I
really need a boyfriend" a screeching
alarm sounds off in my head.
Needing a boyfriend--or even feeling
like you need a guy to hook up with--
may sound innocent, but it is a
symptom of a larger issue, an issue
that will seriously compromise the
next relationship you enter into (if you
can even get that far!).
So what's so bad about needing a
guy? Well, it implies that there is
something lacking within yourself. I've
found that the points in my life where I
longed for a guy were the times when
I felt most insecure and uncertain.
Be it insecure about my appearance,
my abilities, my future--anything
negative in my life brought along an
intense yearning for someone else to
be there and remind me that I was
worth it and it would all be okay.
While having a boyfriend does
provide a lot of comfort, it can't be
your only comfort and this is a trap
many fall into.
Before entering into a relationship,
I truly believe you need to have a
solid relationship with yourself.
You need to know how to pick
yourself up when you're in a funk,
how to feel beautiful even when all
you wanna do is complain to about
how bloated and gross you look
(preferably to a guy who, if he
wants to get laid, is obligated to
provide you with solid evidence
to the contrary).
The best possible attitude to have
is one that says you'd be happy
with or without a guy.
Once you've found that inner love
and that inner confidence, having
a guy will be a nice addition to
your life, not an absolute necessity.
It will also ensure that you never
appear needy again.
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