1. He’s not around you.
This is the biggest sign of whether or not a guy is into you. If he’s not into you, he won’t be “around”.
It’s funny – guys will act 100 different ways around the girl they
like… they’ll even completely ignore her! Or tease her. Or be annoying.
But if they’re into her, it’s not a matter of how they’re acting. It’s the fact that one way or another, they always just seem to be acting that way around her.
He’ll find reasons to be close to you. He’ll always just seem to end up in the same parts of the room as you.
You may not have noticed it before, but once you start paying
attention to it you’ll completely notice it. And if you don’t see that
tending to happen with this guy, it’s a sign he does not like you.
2. Talks to you about other girls comfortably.
So maybe you and him talk on a regular basis. If he talks to you
about other girls or a relationship with a girl casually and
comfortably, that’s a sure sign he’s not into you (in a romantic sense
at least).
3. He has no interest in talking to you.
This is plain enough. If he doesn’t have interest in talking to you, it’s pretty much a given he’s not interested.
4. Body language / general behavior: Avoids eye contact,
positions body away, doesn’t encourage conversation or volunteer
anything about self. Maintains distance from you.
If does any of the things listed in #4, those are pretty sure signs he’s not into you. There are enough dating advice / flirting tips stuff out their that beats those points into the ground, so I’m not going to spend time on body language stuff.
5. Always busy. No rain check.
So you set up a date and he’s flakey. He flakes constantly on you.
He’s not that into you (as they say) – missing a date or two is one
thing, but a guy will make the time for a girl he’s interested in.
Period.
6. No difference between how he talks to you vs other friends. Casual tone of voice.
When a guy is interested in a girl, there’s always a slight
difference in how he interacts with her. It may be subtle, but you’ll
notice it. He’ll have some special way of talking to her or extend some
special kind of attention to her that he doesn’t generally extend.
The best thing you can do to tell if a guy likes you is to pay close
attention to how he interacts with others in general. Which brings me
to my next point…
7. He flirts with you… but he flirts with everyone else, too.
This is where I see a lot of girls get confused. They get all wound
up because some guy totally swept them off their feet. He got their
number, they had a charming conversation, she texts him and…
Nothing! Where did he go?
The problem is – that particular guy flirts with every girl. That’s just his way of being.
In fact, I used to have a habit of calling girls pet names like
sweetheart, “hun” and stuff like that. I thought it was affectionate
and nice, but I meant it in a platonic way.
I didn’t realize it, but I ended up leading girls onto thinking I
was into them and they started crushing back on me. I honestly wasn’t
talking to them this way to be flirtatious, but it came off that way.
I learned my lesson, and the lesson I want to impart here is that
you have to pay attention to how the guy interacts with others in
general.
8. He’s a friendly, outgoing guy in general.
Similar to above. Pay attention to how he interacts with others.
9. Doesn’t talk about feelings, doesn’t say love you, says
he’s “not sure what he feels” (a.k.a. I know what I feel and you would
not respond well if I told you…)
This is more in the realm of relationship problem advise, but I figure it’s worth mentioning here.
If you’re dating or “seeing” a guy and it’s been going on for
several months, the common warning signs that he’s not that interested
are that he doesn’t talk much about his feelings.
Now this isn’t exactly a relationship advise
post, so don’t get too bent out of shape since all of this should be
taken in context. Guys go about expressing their feels in all different
ways, so it’s important that you set you antenna to their frequency and
let them unfold over time. In general, giving a guy space and time to show his feelings is the best policy.
The only major red flag is when it’s been many months (say… 6 or
more) and any conversation around feelings has him saying he’s “not
sure” or “doesn’t know” how he feels.
10. Ignores you, shows you disrespect (putting down your values, thoughts, ideas)
Some guys have their own issues to work out… and unfortunately, some
girls get caught up in being the medium through which the guy works
them out.
To be perfectly honest, I’ve been that guy. I regret saying and
doing some things I’ve done and said in relationships – it was a matter
of me working out my own issues and I took it out on the girl instead
of addressing the person who really had the problem: me.
Still, if a guy regularly ignores you, disrespects you or puts you down, you need to seriously consider moving on.
This is sticky usually because when you’re on the receiving end, the
painful parts feel bad… but the good times by contrast feel amazing.
It feels like progress… like you made a difference… like you’re
worthy. It feels like an emotional roller-coaster. And it can be
addicting.
Problem is, it usually ends up in emotional wreckage. So if you notice a pattern like this, my two cents would be to get out of it!
OK, those are enough signs he does not like you to get you by.
Hope it helps...
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